How To Get Rid of Fear
Last week I talked about the executive who was considering starting his own business, and asked me, “What do you do about the fear?”
To hear this talked about in an 11 minute audio, click here:
The first idea is to just move ahead in spite of fear…or “do it afraid.” In some instances that can work fine, especially when your fears are unfounded.
However, we also said that the weakness of that strategy is made evident when the fears are well founded, instead. In that case, your fears, as powerful beliefs can downright sabotage your success. So, we need to eliminate those fears instead, so we can operate objectively.
Here are my keys to eliminating fear:
1. Make a decision. Like King David said in the Bible, “When I am afraid, I will not be afraid.”
Just because the emotion strikes your gut, doesn’t mean that you have to
give in to it. You can say out loud, “I choose to stay in faith.”
2. Vividly imagine in your mind, the perfect outcome of your situation. You don’t need to know how it could happen, just start dreaming of the best possible picture on the other side of this struggle. There is untold power in your ability to envision success instead of failure. Most people won’t take the time to do this continually. Successful people however, walk by faith, not just by sight.
3. Recognize that fear, like everything else, is just energy. On a biological level, some stimulus just caused your nervous system to release some peptides that vibrated on a certain frequency. These caused the fear receptors on your cell walls to open up to that vibration of fear. That’s all! You can clear that energy in a few steps.
1. Instead of fighting the energy of fear, choose to acknowledge and eliminate it. This is what we do in Flow On Demand, as outlined in the book –Flow On Demand.
2. So, while you are tapping on your fingertips, or the FOD targets, you mentally tune in to how rotten you are feeling. Then you say, “Even though I am afraid of loss and failure, I totally accept myself anyway, and I choose to stay calm and confident. Repeat that three times, and then as you keep tapping, keep focusing on the fear. Try to make that fear as big and powerful as possible, while you sit there.
3. Keep tapping as you think about it, or say it, “Fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of failure, fear of loss, you can get even more specific as certain images come to your mind. In fact you can speak the most ludicrous end of your fears. I.E. – “Afraid that I’ll end up living under a bridge in a cardboard box tomorrow…”
4. What you are doing is facing the fear itself, and watching it fade away. Take your time on this.
5. Then take a deep breath and see if it’s any better at all. Most likely, it is fairly faded.
6. Then start tapping and speaking your choice, “I choose to stay calm and confident, calm and confident…smart and inspired…rich and blessed…successful and happy…calm and confident.”
7. After another breath, tune in to see how the fear feels. Is there still a knot in your stomach? A tightness in your chest? If there is any physical symptom at all, then go through the process again, acknowledging the physical feeling, and reaffirm your decision to be calm and confident.
This is one of those exercises that is even more productive with a skilled coach or energy practitioner, but I want you to be able to empower yourself.
Ultimately, you have not been given a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. So, I encourage you to stir up your gift of faith.
You can eliminate your fears most powerfully when you finally face them and realize that the emotion of fear is like the Wizard of Oz – an illusion. I sometimes remind myself that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real.
You have power to separate what is real from what is false, and in effect, create your own reality.
So, fear not, only believe!
If you would like to order the book, “Flow On Demand, The Athlete’s Edge –Play in the Zone and Unleash Your True Potential, you can do so right here:
http://www.flowondemand.com/ProductsServices/tabid/53/Default.aspx
